He Gives and Takes Away

“She might have a man. But she doesn’t NEED a man. She is strong on her own!!!” ~Jaryn 2/20/19

Jaryn is one of my absolute best friends. She has truly been there for me through the highest of highs and the absolute lowest of lows. Throughout the years of friendship she has given me countless amounts of incredible advice about a wide verity of topics. Anywhere from school advice to relationship advice. time and time again she has said to me that "even though I am married and I love my husband with more than all of my heart, I am strong and independent and don't NEED him." This is something that I will never forget, because we will always be strong and independent women even if we are in a relationship or married.

It can be so hard to lose someone or something we love. Whether it is a boyfriend or girlfriend breakups are never fun and never easy to stay positive through. However we have to remember that nothing (not even life itself) is a permanent thing. The saying “all good things must come to an emend” is easy to over look, but it is so true if you think about it. I have been in some friendships and relationships that have lasted year upon year and some that have lasted less than a week. No kind of breakup is easy for either person. But each relationship can teach you an incredible amount even if it doesn’t last a lifetime. The thing that is the hardest to remember in the moments after you walk away from what you loved is that God has something better in store for you. If you breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend that you were in love with, it can be hard to remember that God can be taking it away from you because you have learned what you need to learn and there is someone even better out there for you. The shortest relationships I have been in, have somehow managed to teach me the most. I have learned what I am not willing to settle for in a partner and what I need someone I am going to spend the rest of my life with to have. The short relationships are (at least for me) easier to walk away from. When I begin to get impatient and try and rush Gods plan, first off, it never works out in my favor, and secondly it reminds me that God is the one that is in ultimate control of my life. Something that I have to remind myself of whenever I’m loosing patience is that God doesn’t see time or measure it. Age is a form of measuring time and because of that He doesn’t see age. Years are another form of measuring time so even if I wait 30 years for the perfect person to come into my life and sweep me off my feet God won’t see that it has been 30 years. But instead He will see that His daughter is with the person she is supposed to be with and walk through the rest of her life with. He will see that everything she has gone through and every relationship leading up to this one has prepared her fully for the rest of her life.

When you do go through a single season, don't dread it. But live it up and use that time to learn more about yourself. Use the time to grow your relationship with God and those around you. It can be so easy to slip into the mindset that you aren't worthy of being loved, or that you are unloveable, or even that you are flawed so you aren't supposed to be loved. But all these things are simply powerless lies from the enemy. No matter if you have a significant other or not you know and can count on the fact that you will forever and every be loved by the One who created you in His image exactly how He wanted you to be. Psalms 136 says this over and over and over again in all 26 verses. The beginning of each verse it recalls past creations, actions, and blessings of Jesus when He was here with us. But after each recollection it says "His love continues forever". You never have to worry about being alone or unloved because your Heavenly Father will forever be with you and love you more than anyone here on earth ever will be able to. Whenever the timing is exactly right and when you and your partner are both fully equipped God is going to make it possible for you two to come together. Nothing you say or do can speed up or slow down the process. When it seems like there is no one out there for you hold onto the hope inside your heart. After every relationship you will never be the same and you will always have learned something that makes you one step closer to meeting the person of your dreams. Hold onto the peace knowing that there is someone out there talking and praying to God for you just as you are talking and praying for them. Hold onto the fact that they are out there somewhere and you are going to get to meet them as soon as your Father wants you to. No matter who, what, when, where, why, or how we have to say a goodbye we never thought we would have to say, cling onto the truth that you have grown and become more of the person you were created to be is the best thing to do. Even though it can seem like there is nothing good that can come out of a situation such as a breakup there is always something positive that you learned from it and that you can use to help you in the next person that is set in front of you to challenge you and love you.