Grow and Go

I had an epiphany a few days ago. As we humans grow, we go. We move on, we change, and we leave what we know to start a new adventure. But there are two parts to that. Some people will never go, without you. Some people will be your rock through every up and every down. Those are the people that stand WITH you at the starting line of every adventure. This can only be done by a select group of people.

Throughout this past year, there have been plenty of people leave my life and there have been plenty of people that have come into my life. Some have been harder to let go than others and some might not be present in my life physically, but I know that they are still there and that when the time is right, we will be together again. Often as we grow we need to take a step back so that we can figure out where we need to go. As we go it is important that we keep it in the back of our minds that we will never be completely alone. There will always be one person that wants to meet with us, guide us, and take us where He wants us to go. If we are surrounded by people of this world when we are trying to hear Him and figure out where He wants to send us, it becomes more of a challenge simply because there are so many thoughts and opinions and ideas being thrown at us.

I have learned that taking time to fast some people or things can be helpful when we are making big decisions, trying to heal, or even in a seasons of learning, the words of God becomes the thing that we focus on instead. If we were to take the time that we think about worldly things and instead spend that time in the word of God or speaking to Him, the "big decisions" of life become a little easier to figure out. Don't get me wrong! Getting help from those around you is an important thing to do, in specific situations. But in others, there is only one opinion that matters. If there is an overwhelming amount of the worlds words being spoken to you it might be time to take a step back for a while. There comes a point when it is better for both parties in a friendship or relationship for some space to be put between each other. I'M NOT SAYING THAT YOU SHOULD ISOLATE YOUR SELF! I will never encourage anyone to isolate themselves. But I am saying that if you are feeling like the relationship is no longer functioning on a "2 way street" it might be time to pull over and look for a way to get back onto a two way street. When I say a "2 way street" I mean that both people are poring out AND being filled up. If I'm being honest, the process of looking for a two way street needs to be a two way street and if it's not that is when you need to decide if this relationship or friendship is worth saving.

I recently read that the hardest thing you will have to do in life is let go of the people you may want to hold onto. There are some people that give off a sense of home. Sometimes, you will have to settle for loving and caring for someone from a distance, and that is okay. It is ok. Because if you cannot show up for another human being the way you know you should, if someone cannot love you the way you need to be loved right now, if circumstances or space or the messiness of life is getting in the way of giving your whole self and nothing less than to another human being, then you have to be honest. With yourself and with them. There is no way that you can pour out from your internal glass if it is empty. Take time for your personal glass. Do not suffocate them and do not suffocate yourself. Do not ignore the way someone makes you feel about yourself in order to keep them in your life, do not ask for something to be more than it can be right now. Instead, appreciate it for what it was, appreciate the lessons it grew within you, appreciate the beauty you were able to feel, and appreciate the fact that in those ways, in those memories, it will be yours forever.

Take Away:

People will grow and they will go. But the memories and feelings will forever be in your heart.

Prayer:

Heavenly father, I just pray that you bring peace to everyone's heart as we go into the new year. I ask that you remind them to be present in every moment that you present them with this year. We are looking forward to growing this year and going where you send us. Please open our hearts to the new thoughts, experiences, and places that you have for us in 2020. Thank you for equipping us with your strength. We love you. Amen